You’ve probably seen “two-headed” Facebook profiles or Twitter avatars, where a husband and wife or boyfriend and girlfriend are posing together for one profile. I’m not a fan. I think everyone should be their own person.

Then I see shows like the Travel Channel where they show a husband and wife both working hard at a diner, pouring their hearts into the business and each other, unselfishly knowing that each is dependent on the other for success. Or couples like my grandmother and granddad who were sturdy Maine inlanders, who worked the farm with each other through a fifty-one year marriage, separated only by a short year when she died in August and he later that June. And I think these people are lucky to have another person who is not separate, but a part of the other. Everything — including their life force, hopes and dreams — is shared.

And I think that maybe I’m wrong.

But most of my experience say “all I ever learned from love was how to shoot someone who outdrew ya.”

For now, I have a single head. I think you should too.

*Hallelujah, written by Leonard Cohen, best performed by Jeff Buckley